Looking “Right”

I’m notorious for saying it and thinking it.  Maybe you are too.  

  • Is that word spelled like this?  Well, it looks right.
  • I’m not sure this dessert is going to turn out ok.  Well, it looks right.
  • Did I say that correctly?  Well, it sounded right.
  • Did I do this correctly?  Well, it looks good to me.

Truth be told, I base a lot of my life’s calls on how something “looks.”

So I was recently cruising through the book of Proverbs and I came across this gem, “There is a way that appears to be right but in the end it leads to death.”  And I looked at what I’d written out to the margin at one point when I studied that passage before and I saw my scrawly handwriting that said, “It looks right.”

Oh I may be 50, but I still struggle with it, Dear Reader!  So many things in life “look right.”  It seems like the right place to be.  It seems like the right thing to say.  It seems like the right cause to champion.  It seems like the right decision.  

Until it’s not.

Maybe I’m thinking about that more these days because I’m the mother of a 21 and 19 year old.  I’ve been praying for wisdom for myself and for my kids for years but I wish I’d started requesting it sooner.  We live in a society where we are told to “Follow your heart.”  I bet I could get on Amazon right now and purchase a cute little plaque with those very words.  But there’s just one problem.  My heart isn’t always the best judge of what is right.  You see, I’m just evil enough and selfish enough and human enough that the majority of the time, my heart wants what I want.  And shocker of all shockers, what I want isn’t always right.  That’s a dangerous lie to live . . . to think that because I want something, or because I think this is the way this should play out, or because I think that’s the best option, that suddenly that makes it right.  Sometimes it might be right, yet many times it is not.

And so I must wrestle with that, “There is a way which appears right.”  And I’m not God, so oftentimes I can’t see through what “looks” right.  Dear God, in this crazy ole world, please grant us wisdom.  Please grant us discernment.  Please help us to not follow our hearts but to follow You.

Until the next Wednesday the Lord allows.